Archive for October 1st, 2015

Weight Weight Just Love Me – Transitions – Day 11

Thursday, October 1st, 2015

Michelle LaBrosse, CCPM, PMP, PMI-ACP, RYT

Traveling south on the Alaska State Ferry from Haines to the lower 48.  Making a transition in where you are is a good time to adopt new habits. I'm taking full advantage of that with my 66 day challenge to love myself more.

Traveling south on the Alaska State Ferry from Haines to the lower 48. Making a transition in where you are is a good time to adopt new habits. I'm taking full advantage of that with my 66 day challenge to love myself more.

I was reading an article yesterday by BJ Fogg (a professor of Persuasive Technology at Stanford University) about how new habits are easier to adopt when making transitions. Today I’m in transition from Haines, Alaska to the lower 48. So it’s a good time to make some conscious choices on the habits I could adopt that would make loving myself more the natural go to state.

In Cheetah Learning’s programs where we accelerate how people learn, one of the tactics we use is to remove obstacles to learning.  So along this same vein, what are some of my obstacles to loving myself more?  Well it’s all in my head – mostly it’s when I slip into what I call a “bad me” or “poor me,” mode of thinking.  My new habit through this transition is to become conscious this is happening and make a pivot to a more uplifting frame – I’m now calling it “grace consciousness.”

I thought of this idea of “grace consciousness” several weeks ago when contemplating the core value from which to frame a new relationship. We had initially discussed having consciousness and growth being our foundational value.  What ensued were plenty of “growth” opportunities neither of us much enjoyed.  So I said, hmmmm – I would prefer to see both of us through a much more gracious view and moved to a grace consciousness core value rather than consciousness and growth. What I realized is it just took me viewing us in that frame and it became so. It’s made our interactions much more graceful and a deepening happiness is taking hold between us. It only takes one person living in grace consciousness to shift a relationship to a new plane.  Think about it – if you’re all accepting and see the other person in their “god realized” state however that is showing up, whatever they are doing is perfection just the way it is. No more perceiving anything as a problem or growth or a challenge.  This is what grace consciousness is for me.

I realized I had experienced this idea of “grace consciousness” from my dietitian Kate who, no matter what I had done with what she suggested, she still held me the good graces of her love and support.  She holds me in unconditional positive regard however I’m showing up (graciousness in my book).  So in my journey south, my new practice is to pivot to grace consciousness for myself whenever the seeds of self-judgement creep into my being.

Kate‘s comment: I’m so glad that you’re using this opportunity as a further jumping-off point. You’ve made more progress than you realize, just keep dedicated and consistent with it!