Michelle LaBrosse, PMP
I’ve had ten days of continual company – first was a big family party for my Father for his 80th birthday then some good friends stopped by for two nights on their way from Denver to Portland. In the first round of company – I got the pleasure of perpetually cleaning the kitchen as it seems the males in my family have developed an allergy to picking up after themselves. I discovered the more I resisted cleaning the kitchen, the harder the job was. But when I donned these “sexy” hot green rubber gloves, I became a white tornado and had the kitchen cleaned in no time. Realizing that like a colicky baby, this too shall pass and my family would be back to their own homes, I decided to change my attitude and stop resisting cleaning the kitchen as it was not helping me at all – and it was hurting my ability to enjoy my family. And wasn’t that the reason we all got together anyhow?
I started thinking, where else in life is resistance to whatever also hurting my enjoyment of life. My friend visiting on her road trip with her family shared with me this book she was reading – called “The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles.” It is all about how resistance to anything sabotages creativity.
I recently completed reading The Untethered Soul – and in that book the author teaches you how to become more conscious of how you are resisting pain and how this hurts your ability to achieve long lasting happiness and fulfillment in life. Whatever you resist in life persists.
I notice this resistance element is what stymies my creative efforts, ability to grow, and ultimately my happiness. When I just get down to just doing it, everything flows. A sense of all is right with the world prevails. And I experience this in every element of my life. I used to resist exercising – then I got this device called the Fitbit. Once I saw how sedentary I actually was, it increased my awareness and stopped my resistance to exercising. Now instead of resisting exercising, I look for opportunities to move more.
My perpetual question has become – what am I resisting and why? Sales have doubled over the past ten days in comparison to the previous ten days. Is this related to my letting go of the need to “resist” and just allowing things to flow? Whatever the reason, the desire and the choice to resist anything is no longer serving me and I’m letting it go as it appears.